Happy....Whatever You Celebrate!

Though no longer Christian, I have wonderful memories of the holidays growing up. My version of Christmas is entirely secular, and I feel no need to give up those traditions just because I no longer believe in the literal birth/resurrection of Jesus. Over the years, despite being sad and childless, Mo and I have carved out our own family traditions. And so tonight we will join my parents for Chinese food and I will bake cookies, before eating them in bed with Santa. In the morning we'll open stockings and eat lil' smokies and biscuits before heading to my parents for a ham dinner with all the trimmings. Presents will be exchanged (all for the baby this year!) and a relaxing, restful day will be enjoyed by all. 

In many ways, this year is just like the years before. And yet it is fundamentally different. Long-time readers may remember that I was pregnant on Christmas once before (in 2009). That tenuous beginning was cut short just a few weeks later....and every year I'm reminded of what could have been. This year, though, Baby Boy is kicking strong and we are into the final countdown before his arrival. I have every reason to hope that, next Christmas, I will be introducing my son to the wonders of the season (namely, twinkling lights, glitter, and shiny things). 😉

I know how hard these days can be when you are struggling. Whether you're recovering from a loss, another BFN, or just another year passing without the fulfillment of your dreams, holidays can be extremely rough. My advice (for what it's worth) is to do what makes you happy - whether that's throwing yourself into the festivities, or ignoring them altogether. Whether you celebrate Christmas, Chanukah, Festivus, or nothing at all - may you find something that makes you smile. And if not, that's okay, too. It's fine to five a big f-you to the universe, crawl under the covers, and wait for New Year's. I've certainly been there, done that. 

And remember: if this year doesn't live up to your expectations, there's always next year. Which is either totally inspiring, or a reason to go drown your sorrows. Just try to survive it, ok? 

What are your plans this week? Will you be keeping busy or enjoying some much needed rest and relaxation? What holiday traditions are you looking forward to/completely dreading?