Wow! I seemed to have sparked an *ahem* heated conversation with yesterday's Mother's Day post. Though I am definitely opinionated and outspoken, I have to admit that I was a little taken aback by one or two of the comments.
Let me just say this: you don't have to agree with me. In fact, I think the world is a richer place for our differences of opinion, and I am open to discuss many different issues with people who don't agree with me.
HOWEVER -- please keep in mind that, when you comment here, you are entering MY HOME. More than that, you are entering my sacred space, my safe haven. This is the place where I am allowed to "let it all hang out." It is where I discuss those dark, ugly, feelings that aren't acceptable to talk about in other places. It's where I work out a myriad of emotions, and I don't want to feel the need to put a pretty facade on them.
It is my hope that readers here find posts that make them think -- even if they ultimately think I am wrong. And you are welcome to tell me that I am wrong, as long as you remember to do so in a polite and respectful way.
Some of you agreed with me, and some of you did not. That's okay. Thank you to those of you who tried to remember where you are, and tried to put yourselves in my shoes when you responded. I appreciate that, even if you told me I was wrong.
To those of you who either forgot where you were for a moment, or lack the manners I expect in my home, please be assured that I have more thoughts to share. I am trying to choose my words carefully, though, because I do not think that lashing back at you (even though you were quick to do so with me) is the right way to handle the situation.
Just remember one thing -- fair or not, agree or not, no one makes you read my blog. If you don't like my content, please click away -- and take your name-calling with you.
Monday, May 13, 2013
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I really enjoyed your post and it was right on the mark for me.
ReplyDeleteEven though I'm not in the same position you are in, I can still see a LOT of valid points in your post from yesterday. Kudos to you for having the confidence and belief in your words to stand up for them.
ReplyDeleteYour post was right on the money for me, also.
ReplyDeleteI'm proud of you for putting your thoughts so succinctly into words and being brave to then hit publish. As you can tell from my comments on it, I completely agreed with it and think that perhaps the people who called you out on it, have never been in your [all our] shoes and had to deal with the emotional and physical fall out of infertility, perhaps if they had, they'd be able to see where you were coming from with that post.
ReplyDeleteAnd kudos must go to those who haven't been in your [all our] shoes BUT yet still understood the point you were making with your post.
I wish I could copy this entire post and have it on my sidebar on my blog to refer to as needed :) Giving you full credit of course! ;) I have read the same statement on many other blogs over the years but you state the truth eloquently and succinctly. A person's blog is their salon. State your opinions, but there is no need to be insulting. You are a brave person for exposing your darkest feelings for everyone to see. That is why you're such an awesome blogger. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteI commented on your Mothers Day post, but it was apparently lost in cyberspace.
ReplyDeleteI think the few commenters that feel the need to attack are doing so because what was written hits a nerve. There's still this grandiose assumption that one's life is never complete unless the birth a child (or multiple). Yet we are surrounded by examples of how false the assumption is and, frankly, that's one hell of a unfair burden for anyone to stick on a child.
ReplyDeleteInfertility/loss are terrible traumas far too many live with in secret because of the unnecessary shame and undervaluing our society thrusts on those living with it. Yet time and again, I find the people who walk this path tend to ultimately become the role models and trailblazers that so many in the world look up to. Because to find meaning in life, one has to analyze their souls and their darkest thoughts. None of that comes externally, despite what so many desperately want to believe.
Keep writing, Jo. Your words ring true to so many of us.
Just commenting on your previous post did me good :). I have joined your followers, love your honesty. Sally @ http://thebenefitofbirdsong.blogspot.co.uk/
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